1/17/2013

Rest Wherever I Can Get It and Other Lessons

There are always new things to learn and opportunities to fine-tune lessons we were certain we'd mastered.

Blogging, social networking, teaching, parenting: all offer multiple chances to practice.

Some of the things I keep relearning I thought I'd share:

Religion, politics, gun control, parenting skills, who has the right to talk about neurodevelopmental disorders and mental illnesses, health care, unemployment are all topics bound to piss people off. Open discussion is rarely welcome and rarely had. Instead, these are all topics that lend themselves to polarization. If you want to sort your friends into handy groups or lighten your friend list, go there. The more of these topics you can add into one discussion, the more points you earn because you maximize your chances of alienating everyone in your social network.

Some arguments apparently never die, and four years later, you can still see some of the same people arguing about the same topics with the same exact fervor and rhetoric.

People who were assholes four years ago are still likely to be assholes today.

Some topics are NOT worth writing about publicly because there are people out there who are batcrap &@$@$. No, I'm not typing that word, as I've learned that batcrap ***** people don't like to be called that.  No good can come from some topics being publicly raised.

Naps are an absolute must any and every chance you get. So is going to bed early. And once your kids are big enough to tuck you in, you should let them.

If you don't see it happen and don't hear it, you don't have to deal with it. There are a lot of things we shouldn't see or hear. However, there are also a lot of things we should see and hear and act on. Bullying, belittling, abuse are all things we should stand up and fight. However, we should also be willing to call bullshit when a bully gets called on his or her bullying and wants to insist that he or she is being bullied. Calling a person an ass when she's an ass is name-calling, and if it's backed up by examples, it's justified. It's not bullying.

The online world is often nothing like the real world, but it's pretty cool when they intersect in a positive way.

Some of the best friends in the world can be people you've never met in the real world.  That's hands down the best part of being online.

Facetiming your children when you're in bed for the night is a whole lot easier than getting out of bed and walking to the other end of the house to see if they are in bed.

2 comments:

Dixie Redmond said...

Kim -

I had this ditty going through my head, which I learned in Sunday School many years ago...."Oh be careful little eyes what you see..." And I was thinking 2 days ago that if I don't read some things then they are not on my emotional load. And yet, some things *ought* to be there. Figuring that out is a challenge on some days.

Choosing to read the things that make me walk away thinking in a good way is good. Choosing to read the things that make me feel hopeless...well those have to go.

K Wombles said...

I completely agree, Dixie. Finding the balance, avoiding the things that are not helpful to anyone...