Make Sure Your Path Leads You Where You Want to go
When so much time spent is on tearing others down to make oneself look better, what does that really say about most of the people out there on the internet? Boredom surely plays a part, as does setting up the boundaries for in-groups and out-groups.
Consider that you might not be right, might not have all the answers, might have a different path to journey, and it gets easier to allow people the right to their own journeys.
No, it doesn't mean that you stop sticking up for your principles or that you suddenly cease to write about what science shows, but it does mean you stop thinking that anyone who doesn't think the same way is your enemy.
Besides, your enemies are usually pretty good at showing themselves. You'll know them when you see them. Most people are walking wounded, dealing with struggles that may not reveal themselves on the outside but that seethe and writhe on the inside and may consume all of individual's attention and energy. Most people are doing the best they can to get through a day.
There are more pompous asses out there than you can shake a stick at, but if you get past their mask, it's all revealed to be a sham, so knowing that, why bother with them? So much of our battles online in our autism community are personal attacks against people who are anti-vaccine or who are pro-cure. We reduce people to stereotypes a thousand times a day and think we have their full measure when we probably aren't even in the ballpark.
So why bother? Why waste your time on things that matter little when big issues exist? We can disparage the political system for its tendency to focus on irrelevant minutiae, but we are no better. As we argue about pointless matters, state legislatures pass invasive laws mandating transvaginal ultrasounds for women wanting abortions, with most people completely unaware. Funds are slashed from state budgets that would help the disabled. These and other infringements on personal rights, like the right for a woman to make her own decisions regarding her body and her reproductive rights or the right for those who are disabled to have access to medical care and to have the safety net they need to live a life above that of abject poverty, are going on while we twiddle our thumbs and see who can win pointless argument and emerge as top dog.
Our heads are down, like teens texting on their phones, oblivious to where they're going. Look up, people, and make sure you're going down the path you want to be on, because once you get to the end, it's way too late to do anything about it.
Crafted for your viewing consumption by Kim Wombles