Make Sure Your Path Leads You Where You Want to go

When so much time spent is on tearing others down to make oneself look better, what does that really say about most of the people out there on the internet? Boredom surely plays a part, as does setting up the boundaries for in-groups and out-groups.

Consider that you might not be right, might not have all the answers, might have a different path to journey, and it gets easier to allow people the right to their own journeys.

No, it doesn't mean that you stop sticking up for your principles or that you suddenly cease to write about what science shows, but it does mean you stop thinking that anyone who doesn't think the same way is your enemy.

Besides, your enemies are usually pretty good at showing themselves. You'll know them when you see them. Most people are walking wounded, dealing with struggles that may not reveal themselves on the outside but that seethe and writhe on the inside and may consume all of individual's attention and energy. Most people are doing the best they can to get through a day.

There are more pompous asses out there than you can shake a stick at, but if you get past their mask, it's all revealed to be a sham, so knowing that, why bother with them? So much of our battles online in our autism community are personal attacks against people who are anti-vaccine or who are pro-cure. We reduce people to stereotypes a thousand times a day and think we have their full measure when we probably aren't even in the ballpark.

So why bother? Why waste your time on things that matter little when big issues exist? We can disparage the political system for its tendency to focus on irrelevant minutiae, but we are no better. As we argue about pointless matters, state legislatures pass invasive laws mandating transvaginal ultrasounds for women wanting abortions, with most people completely unaware. Funds are slashed from state budgets that would help the disabled. These and other infringements on personal rights, like the right for a woman to make her own decisions regarding her body and her reproductive rights or the right for those who are disabled to have access to medical care and to have the safety net they need to live a life above that of abject poverty, are going on while we twiddle our thumbs and see who can win  pointless argument and emerge as top dog.

Our heads are down, like teens texting on their phones, oblivious to where they're going. Look up, people, and make sure you're going down the path you want to be on, because once you get to the end, it's way too late to do anything about it.


Dixie Redmond said...

Kim - I appreciate the thoughtfulness in this post and in the previous post. I am in advocacy mode in a big way right now for my son in the school system - and truthfully for those who come after him. Services have been diluted and whittled because of budget issues such that I see a serious decline in the last 5 years. So am meeting with school board members and administrators until I find someone who has some power and will also listen. Truthfully, I've had my head down for too long just trying to successfully navigate life the last couple of years that I haven't noticed some very important things that needed to be noticed. And apparently no one else has either. Maine has a governor who is dismantling services to all kinds of groups now in the name of budget woes. I stopped blogging on autism, but I haven't stopped thinking about all kinds of things that matter regarding autism and helping autistics.

kathleen said...

Absolutely!! So much happens because we aren't really paying attention to the big picture-I find it scary...
@ Dixie Redmond-you aren't alone. I have been trying to get our superintendent to help with some things for a while now..I'm in Maine too. The cuts to special needs and services in our schools is appalling.

K Wombles said...

Thanks, Dixie. Good luck on your fight to get better services; I hope you can find other parents in the school district who will work with you--the more the better.