1/08/2011

Saturday's Cats and Kids

Happy Saturday, folks! It was a productive and fast week here. The girls transitioned back to school pretty well, although Rosie was certain on Sunday she didn't want to go back. They had a good week and brought home straight As on their report cards, something I will never take for granted and always be humbled by. They often don't see the point of the things they're asked to do at school, especially when it's material they've already mastered, so I'm grateful they remain compliant and do the best they can. They also didn't fight too hard on the homework, either.




With Bobby, everything academic was a struggle, and the progress was so slow and often nonexistent. Lily and Rosie have surpassed his current academic ability, and so there is a bittersweetness to all of this that I'm not sure I can put into words. It is what it is, and the most important part is that the girls understand this reality and do not think less of their brother. They do, however, think he needs to work on his spelling, which leads to long talks with them about intellectual disability, doing the best one can with what one is, and to drop it, so he forgot an "e" in the word boxes; it's still understandable. It took me years and years to get Bobby to be willing to try to write when he wasn't sure of a spelling and I'd hate to see that bit of progress removed because all three are equally adamant that it be done right or not at all. Ah, but that's a bit of digression. :-)

Bobby may not be particularly skilled in the academics area, but in self-help skills, he does well. There he outperforms his sisters, so that the three of them rely on each other for different things, each doing something well.
Bobby helping with dinner.


The work on Lily's room continues today. Most the painting is done; there's a bit of touch up to do on the blue wall. There are shelves to add at the head of her bed, each one the color of one of the walls, and a folding door to put on the closet. Rosie remains unconvinced about whether to use some of the extra paint to change her room. She's gone back and forth, which is cute, as she'll say yes to a change and then a moment later say, "Or you could leave it alone." We'll see. :-)







I think it works pretty well, and it's impossible to take in all five colors at once; you can only see three at a time, so it doesn't overwhelm (well, at least it doesn't overwhelm all of us).

So, kids and cats:


Bobby and Aphrodite

Rosie and Frankie

12 comments:

mamafog said...

Happy Saturday! Glad the girls had an easy transition to school. I love the painted room. What cool parents you are.

I wonder if the need for perfection indicates black and white thinking, its like they can only see right or wrong -nothing in between. My husband can be like this. It took me a while to get him to stop saying no and correcting my daughter when she spoke.

KWombles said...

Hi mamafog! Thanks. :-)

I suspect you're right, that it is an example of the black and white thinking. One of our goals has been to teach them that there are times close enough is good enough and times that it isn't--not easy.

farmwifetwo said...

And had it been 1970 or so, and before gov'ts decided to legislate for the masses that refused to take responsibility for themselves (ahhhh... them soapboxes :) ) Bobby would have easily found himself a job that would have suited his ability to complete tasks - factory, farm, etc - with ease.

My Opa was the smartest person I have yet to meet. He never completed Gr 8, and I suspect in today's world would have been dx'd with Asperger's. But in his world he got a job at 13, learned to fix anything with a motor, never forgot the Russian he learned to speak as a child - he read his Russian/Eng dictionary regularly, and could add as big a list of numbers that you could think of... solely by glancing at it.

I'm not convinced this regulated world of ours has helped these children any... or just segregated them more.

Karen and Gerard said...

That is one wild room--that's nice you are willing to make it appealing to your kids. Congrats to them on the straight A's too.

K- floortime lite mama said...

happy happpy saturday
loved this little peek into your life
How old are the girls
all your kids sound soooo amazing ( and gorgeous !!!!)

KWombles said...

FW2,

I know; there aren't enough jobs now for folks who are good with their hands and willing to work hard, but who aren't good at things that require academic skills. My hope is that someday his volunteering at an animal shelter and his willingness to care for the cats by cleaning their litter boxes and carriers will turn into a marketable skill.


Karen and Gerard,

It is a wild room, isn't it?

Thank you. They beam when they show us their report cards.

KWombles said...

K-,

:-) Thanks! The girls are 7 and 9.

Aspergirl Maybe said...

I can so relate to the spelling issue. My son was so hesitant about handwriting and even now that he can write neatly, finds it tiring and boring.

One day the teacher walked around and interrupted his work to fix the direction his paper was slanted. I mean, come on!!!

MommyToTwoBoys said...

Academics are important, but you can't beat getting those self help skills down. Those are what I hope my son gets more than anything else. It will set my mind at ease about the future.

And I think the room is beautiful! I love that you let her design it. My parents stiffled my creativity growing up for what was more "practical" and I still look back angrily.

kathleen said...

Great pictures..I love the room-it reminds me of an easter egg...which reminds me of chocolate..which is a wonderful thing..The colors look great together..

Sammy can't spell either..oh he can learn the words-do well on a test..but then they leave him almost immediately. Ahh well...

Love Rosies "maybe we'll just leave it alone.." hee. I understand so well...

Your kids are wonderful..:)

Diane said...

Hi.

I'm enjoying getting a little more familiar with your blog. I absolutely love how you appreciate each of your kids for who they are and their own abilities! That's something we always try to stress around here. I've wondered for a while now whether people who had different skills or were less socially adept weren't more accepted in the past, because everyone wasn't really expected to be so much the same, and different people were valued for their unique contributions.

The black and white thinking is hard to get past. My ASD guy likes to cook once in a while but gets completely freaked out if I ask him to estimate part of a measure of something. But in some areas he's fine with "good enough". He doesn't mind that his handwriting is barely legible, but notices when the grammar isn't right. I really think it mainly depends on what Expectations he's already formed in his mind - both for himself and others.

I love all the color on your walls! It's all white walls here - mainly just because it simplifies things, and life is complicated enough :)

KWombles said...

Aspergirl Maybe,

I don't blame him; I find handwriting boring and arduous. Thank heavens for word processing.

MommyToTwoBoys,

Thank you. She's delighted with the room, and so am I. I'd be jealous of all the colors (it had been just the blue and yellow), except my bedroom is just as I want it: deep purple, lavender and black. :-) I think at this point we're missing red, peach, and orange, but the rest of the colors are pretty well covered in our house.

Kathleen,

hee, it does look like easter eggs, doesn't it? I love the pastels. Oh okay, we know I love every color, but that room is wonderful. :-) And so are my kids. I love Rosie's comment, too, and respect her decision to leave it alone; it's the only color she remembers her room being. Got Rick convinced on the sage in the living room finally, but not the ceiling. drats.

Diane,

:- Thanks. I'm enjoying reading your blog and getting to know you better, too. I think we have a lot in common. :)

White walls are lovely, too. I still have one room white, the utility room! It's a clean, bright color, and if I'm going to deal with laundry and Aphrodite, our laundry room cat, biting my feet, the room should have a crisp feel to it. :-)