There are some divisions that are not possible to be overcome, some people that cannot be worked with, despite a willingness to focus on things that should be common interests. When Age of Autism's editors put out the sorts of things they do, reasonable people recognize they are not dealing with individuals willing to engage in rational discourse, willing to work to overcome obstacles that our children face.
Plus, when they shift their stories, it's kind of hard to take them seriously. They've spent the last year badmouthing Ari Ne'eman, and now they want to pretend that it isn't that they are against Ari; it's that they are against him being the only autistic representative. BS: "We have published a number of posts explaining why we do not support Ari Ne'e,eman, a young adult with Asperger's Syndrome, as the sole representative for the autism spectrum on the National Council for Disabilities."
I am all for working with parents regardless of where they think autism comes from if their focus is on acceptance, appreciation, and accommodation. I'm not for sacrificing my principles to work with people like those running AoA. I see no evidence that these three things are things they are working for.
On a side note, to someone I consider a potential friend, I do not think, having been there, that calling a parent desperate is an offensive thing to do. What parent wouldn't be desperate to help his/her child? And I mean I really have been there, enough times, with my oldest two, when I had legitimate worry about whether they would survive or not to know desperation inside and out, to the depths of my soul. If anything, when I use desperation, I use it with an intimate awareness of what it means to know desperation and how important it is, in that darkness, in that depth of despair, to have accurate, legitimate information to rely on.